as planned, me and folks; mommie, MONSTER MUSCULAR-FIGURED (hehe) bros and sista boarded the advance booked Maxi Cab @ 6.30am with all the offerings we bought and prepared for daddy. both me and bro gary were stil high from our drinkin that ended ard 5am with daddy's old buddies whom passed some of their offerings for us to bring to daddy.
traffic conditions there was a KILLER @ Lim Chu Kang!!! Can’t imagine those full uniformed officers standing at the roadside and every junction can tahan under the sorching HOT sun!!!
finding the exact location was rather a pain this year and we seems to have some obstacles in finding Daddy. It also kinda of teaching us a lesson that don’t take for granted that someone will remember the addy well. great relief when i managed to gt uncle hu to give us the correct addy.
when we reached and "found" Daddy…Mommie, me and Gary got emotional, esp Mommie. She was crying her entire heart out. i felt so painful inside, like being cut into pieces to witness this but have to dong, bit my lips, reminded myself not to cry.
gary's eyes were wetted, puffing and sitting there by the tombstone and rubbing Dad’s pix in silence. Maybe he’s "telling" Daddy things from his heart…
i was weeping quietly behind my shades, placin his fave food, lighted a ciggie and placed it there on the urn to start off with the prayers, scattering the familiar scent of jasmine on the grass patch. walked over to hug mom...
i'm stil really pained by the loss of losing daddy, it's like just ydy. the fact that he was a wonderful dad, a loyal fren, my best drinkin and puffing kaki, a man whom loved me and protected me since the dy i was born.
1 of my biggest regrets in life was that I wasn’t able to make it in time to see daddy for the last breathe. i have to fulfill a promise which I given to him; no matter what happens, the noodle delivery still have to go on; to reach every single stalls. In fact, this promise have also marked my 2nd YI HA in life.
The scariest part have submerged within me that is to be able to find the right person to love so deeply and to lose him/her at the deepest point of your life. Take Mom and Dad for living example.
Dad (not educated at all and by default always kept his emotions and feelings inside himself) confessed his undying love for Mom before he departed from his world that he’s kan xin to have Mom this life and will want to be husband and wife for the next life as well and that he wants to be only with her in living and in death. After he spoke these, he breathed his last couple of days later @ TTSH. With this strong love and bonding, Mom nearly wanna end her life to meet her husband too. It’s fated ba that our little sista was born (I always thought so) therefore Mom is still surviving till now.
Her cries and yearn for my Dad at his tombstone made both me and GaryQ more quieter. JoeQ is a less emotional guy in our family but he was kinda of upset looking for a couple of mins. ReginaQ, brought along her handmade birthday card and placed it there. We all missed him even though it’s been 2 years ago.
Took a few snaps of Dad’s tombstone and recalled the tablet carvings that we 4 siblings requested with Mr Hu (the man I hunted to do the carvings), "Daddy, we will always love you and will always miss u").
This story ends with a tint of another regret that we do not have a complete family pix…
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2 Responses to “Tribute to Daddy, my dearest love”
CcIiNnDdYy Says:
April 22nd, 2007 at 11:38 am edit
OMG… I was crying when I read that your dad proclaimed his love for your mom, despite the pain he suffered in his last remaining days. This is what I called the great love story in reality. I salute your belated father and tell your mom that she had been a very lucky woman to marry your dad. Even though he is gone, I believe their love will go on forever…
Caroline Moon Says:
April 29th, 2007 at 2:33 am edit
Hello fish jiejie,
Although i yet to meet you, but your words seems like you are talking to us. Your tribute will surely be heard, and its a great lesson to all of us that never take love and your family for granted. i am truely touched by your words. I never went to your daddy’s wake, i think i was in China working. Your daddy is in my prayers now, and all of you esp your mom. Love you lots and joe brother too.
Love,
Carol
Gosh! I was really shocked at 7am, to read that King of Pop, MJ have passed away due to heart attack! As far as I could rmb, it was 1985 when i 1st started listenin to his songs and the virgin song was "Beat it". Dad bought me my 1st walkman and I never failed to wake up at 4am to listen. Can't imagine this departure marks a regret as he's gonna cut a new album soon.
